A couple of months ago I finished the book Better Than Before, Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin. I really enjoyed it. Ms. Rubin is just honest and self-deprecating enough to keep her personal takes on her research from coming off as preachy or condescending. I will admit that she walks a fine line in this area at times.
Her chapter on safeguards where she talks about how we handle our stumbles: "Instead of viewing our stumbles as evidence that we're weak or undisciplined or lazy, we can see our stumbles as part of the habit-formation process."
The whole section on Desire, Ease, and Excuses that goes over all of the different ways we might sabotage our habit-forming efforts. This section knew my life!
Ms. Rubin very specifically prefaces her advice and research with the note that the point of this book is not to highlight what habits are good or bad. Rather, the focus of this book was forming habits that work for you as an individual and in her section on clarity she points out that we can identify what are bad habits for us by looking at any habits we try to conceal.
Also on the subject of clarity, "red-herring habits" or habits that we say we want to develop, but actually don't. In her words, "they allow us to fool ourselves about our actual intentions."
This is a book that I see myself picking up again as I try to build better habits. Have you read it? What did you think?