The Meghaun Manifesto

I hold these truths to be self-evident.

  • Happiness is the best revenge. Nothing feels better than being happy. Well, okay, it sort of feels a little better when the people who previously made you unhappy are not doing so well. I freely admit that is vindictive.
  • When you start a relationship through hurting someone else, it ends very badly. I know this from experience. Be Ye Not So Selfish!
  •  My instincts are good. I must now learn to let them guide me rather then tell them to "shhhh be quiet" because I am having fun. Fun that is against my instinctive feelings is never fun in the long run. Years of painful learning curve on this one.
  • I will survive what you do to me. I have been hurt before. I will be hurt again.  Kanye quieted the crazies long enough to get it right for once when he rapped, "Now that that don't kill me, can only make me stronger."
  • On the other hand, I still live with regrets over people I have hurt. The lesson: It is better to be hurt, than to be the one doing the hurting.
  • Life in this world is never fair. Accept this reality, but reject the people who don't sympathize when you face this unfairness. Think about that. If you tell someone that something is unjust or unfair or unrighteous and their response is, in effect, a shoulder shrug. An "it is what it is." A "what can you do?" Reject them. You can keep it real and still be sympathetic/empathetic.
  • Females who can not keep female friends are a problem. It is not that they are bad people. They are just a problem. See, women who prize friendships with other women realize a simple truth: True, real, friendships with males are rare, often impermanent, and can lead to hurt when a girlfriend or wife steps into the picture. Smart women realize that deep lasting platonic friendships are best when formulated with other women. Women who share common values and goals. And okay, let me just keep it real with you: If you can't keep at least a few fellow female friends, you are more than probably the problem.
  •  Oprah: "When someone shows you who they are believe them." One of the least annoying Oprah-isms ever.
  • I must stop selling myself short. I must stop underestimating my worth. So must you.
  • Support groups are vital. Good, sturdy, trustworthy support groups. You will need them someday. Identify and treat them right now. You might need them sooner than you think. 
  • Honesty is the best policy. You can add all the qualifications and ipso factos and quid pro quos to that statement you want. You can quibble about it not being a lie if you are just holding back information. You can justify however you see fit. Let me be blunt: Honesty is the best policy. The end. I love the feeling of knowing I can hold my head up high because when a half-truth would suffice I told, "the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God." Try it. Don't hold back. Be an open book.
  • When you are heartbroken, "Serve God, Love Your People, And Mend." (Stolen from Shakespeare)